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“I’m like a “dry drunk” – it’s just a question of when.”

How old are you?

45 but fortunate to look quite a bit younger…besides women are both more catholic in what attracts them.

How many women have you been with?

The subset of women I’ve had sex with because of the internet…somewhere between 30-50 I’d guess. Lots of drinks and blowjobs and other variations that didn’t lead to sex.

How do you usually meet women?

In the real world of New York. Bars, physical therapy offices, conferences (if I’m a speaker it’s especially easy)

Do you have a (pick up) technique?

I wouldn’t say so. I’m not usually one to walk up and start a conversation, in part because that’s unseemly for a married man, in part because at heart I’m shy. But once a conversation starts, I’m articulate and funny so it’s not hard to keep talking.

Why do you think women like you / your technique?

At first because I’m good looking, then because I’m funny and (I know this sounds absurd) because I’m an otherwise good man with this Achilles heel with sex (and by sex I’m including everything from flirtation to seduction to the wild pornographic stuff)

Would you sleep with someone you were embarrassed to be seen with in public (if yes/ no, why?)

Never. Well, once in Colorado in the 90s under extenuating circumstances. Sadly, I’m looking for some kind of validation in sex so I have to feel good about them…that they’re not drunk or desperate or broken.

What would you like women to know about male mind? (What do women get wrong about men?)

Hell, I’m not sure that I can add to the infinite dialog on this. Perhaps this. Speaking in general (and I really mean in general…I know enough exceptions in life to know that it’s not 90%/10%…it’s more like 65/35)…men start where women end, and vice versa. Women often put the man they’re with into a template of “how can I care about him…why do I care…what’s the potential) even if the setting is short term. As they get answers to those questions they’re more sexually attracted and open. Men start with sex, the dirtier the better, and move toward more emotional terrain. It’s especially ironic since in long term relationships men stop wanting the hot, dirty stuff, the long kisses and courtship level sex…while women are more driven than ever. Again…highly variable.

Is there anything that you’d never admit to in public when it comes to dating? (this is totally anonymous btw.)

Apart from the fact that I do, nothing comes to mind. I’m pretty open. I might not tell someone that I love rough sex the first time I meet them, but there’s not much off limits ; )

Girl of your dreams?

Smart and funny for the long run…comfortable in her own skin…easy going…good at managing the relationship…respectful of my contributions…open enough to recognize that monogamy is unnatural so that either you circumvent it or get creative.

Why “used to”? What changed?

I have a daughter who is the gravity in my universe. But I’m like a “dry drunk” – it’s just a question of when.

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“Never play on a lady’s weakness or insecurities … or anyone’s for that matter. That’s evil, and desperate.”

So how many women have you been with? 
I’ve dated 4-6 girls when I was in HS/College and earlier on when I started working; and have met over a dozen ladies in XXX the last decade or so.  I travel a lot and have met other ladies in other cities but they really don’t count as it is hard to maintain even a casual relationship when you are flying in and out of a city.
What do you do to pick up women? Have a special technique, play on their insecurities, are a nice guy… do you pick up women on line?
No, I don’t have any techniques – I tell them exactly what I am about.  Unless being a nice guy/gentleman is a technique (that’s one’s breeding, so I won’t consider being a gentleman a “technique” per se).  In one of my first dates, the lady walked out as I had used an older pic of myself (in my defence it is tough for guys to have good pics as we are not proned to taking massive amount of selfies, etc. but I’ve since invested in some recent and professionally taken pics).
I have two dating persona – one for the ladies interested in just casual encounters for fun and kink (I am a shibari master and these ladies are aware of what I am about with rope play), and another for longer-term relationships.  Most of the ladies I’ve dated in XXX I’ve met on-line on CL (I mostly respond within the “Casual Encounters” or the “Women for Men” sections, for the two categories of ladies I’ve met, respectively).  I travel a lot and I am equally up front with the ladies I’ve met in other cities.
P/S:  Never play on a lady’s weakness or insecurities … or anyone’s for that matter.  That’s evil, and desperate.
What are the biggest challenges when dating multiple women
When one lady slowly becomes serious and you have to figure out a way to phase out of the others.  This is not an issue with casual encounters … the more the merrier in this case (although when I am in a LTR, I do not meet others casually).
Are you looking for something more serious ultimately and if not/ yes, why?
Can’t really look for anything serious as that is really presumptious … when it happens it happens.  However in one case, it developed into a LTR, for 2 very nice years before we broke up.
What’s the craziest experience you’ve ever had while dating?
From my Casual Encounters persona, rope bondage (this I had always explored, way before 50-shades made it popular).  Rope bondage may sound rough and painful, but it is all about mutual power exchange.  I am engaged in a more ceremonial form of rope bondage (tea ceremony included) that is slow and easy, sensual and intimate … before it gets intense as each lady has a different threshold for intensity.
The nicest?
The 2-year LTR.  It was an awesome relationship where we were both honest with each other’s wants and needs and us making changes in our lives to accommodate each other.  We had a very intimate/sensual relationship for two solid years before it ended abruptly (we couldn’t reconcile my travels and my love for ropes).
How old are you? 
Early 40s.

“My double is licking your double so hard that your double is squirting in my double’s mouth…we should should do the same thing and see if the world will explode”

Hi Jowita. That’s a very unique name 🙂
I’m Mike. We can talk through email initially.
Obviously, since you’re interested in writing a book about the topic, don’t be surprised if I flirt with you. Having said that..Jowita is a woman’s name correct?? Lol. If not I guess we’re both going to learn something ahahah

Well, the book is written already. This is for the website (www.guy2016.com). Yes, I am a woman. Let me know when you’re around to talk (Is here ok?).

First, obviously I was on CL [Craigslist] a woman is asking a question and let’s face it…most of the ad are a waste of time.

Okay, well… tell me why did you want to talk about this?

How do you seduce women?

Seducing depends on the situation. I like to be blunt mostly…I think brutal honesty can be shocking and good at the same time.

Sex leads to all things good…so I guess it depends on the person.

When I was younger it was 1 night stands then I got married..then I got divorced and it was 1 night stands. I think I have a pattern lol

I’m 48, 5’9″, slim, fit..longer blonde hair, blue eyes. Had a guy in a bar last week call over and asked me what band I played for lol

“Blunt honesty” as a tactic: so you just tell them you want to sleep with them? Can you give me an example of a pick-up line?

Do you sleep with (or have you) people simply because you are attractive? Can you elaborate if yes?

This line actually worked. I was in a strip club and the waitress was serving us. After awhile and talking to her I said…”Do u believe that people have a double somewhere in the world?” She hesitated and I continued, “Well I do and my double is licking your double so hard that your double is squirting in my double’s mouth…we should should do the same thing and see if the world will explode”

Did it work?

Yes it did work 🙂

That’s what’s so amazing about people..u can be as direct as you want..some people think its rude and some people think its giving them attention..maybe freeing in a way as there’s nothing underhanded or surprises….it just is what it is.

Actually I don’t like to brag about things like that but I do like to share funny stories which I have my fair share of.

Look at CL ads for BBW…and rethink who’s hard to get lol

If I understand ur last question.. have I ever used someone to just get off..
I think yes….drunk…nothing to do…know I could go over and get laid…so yes

Let me ask you something…after asking so many question of med u don’t know…ever get turned on to the point that u think about answers and those answers help u get off when you’re alone??

Or have you heard so many stories that you’re sensitized to it… how many bjs can you watch on porn before the viewer doesn’t get turned on anymore.

What motivates you to write about this? Do you like the shock value as well…I see you used the word fuck on your blog…I’m thinking you like to push the envelope

Am I close?

What is it about sex that interests you…why pick that subject as opposed to “why do ISIS men say they are Muslim but rape western women for fun” or is that ur next book. You’re European so you are more liberal sexually than most….my opinion 🙂

Because I wrote a book called GUY that talks about what some men are really like from a male point view. And I wanted this site to supplement the book. And because I’m genuinely curious.

A man comes up to you and says “let’s go back to my place and fuck..or have sex..or let me go down on you”. Your reaction is??? Why would other women have different reactions….I think men play odds…how many times can u ask and get a “no” before u get a yes.

I have actually come out of a bar and standing on the corner asked a girl if she wanted to go back to my place “just up the street” to fuck…and she said yes. What led her to just let herself go with it.

My friend and I caught the same cab as a giel and said why don’t u come with us..she said sure..and took her back to my place afterwards and has sex…after talking with her…found out she just wanted to let loose…right place right time or just lucky lol

Good morning J
After all that talk about sex..we never got into likes and dislikes and kinks. I woke up very horny….thanks 🙂

I’m not flirting with you.

Is that a statement or an explanation?

(I didn’t reply because I wasn’t sure if I was flirting. A thing to consider?)

” not every guy is into you, and if you want a relationship, don’t give up the cookie so quick”

I strive for having intense and intimate relationships and I’m fully aware that one can not achieve that in a one night stand. Also i have gotten to know myself and one night stands are not sexually satisfying as they are exciting for the pure rush and curiosity. So having said all that, this is how i approach the situation, it is my belief that a man proposes and the woman chooses, so seduction it is usually about the message. What is she looking for? and how is she telling me this and how am i going to meet her wants and needs. Example if a woman is looking for that power, financial type guy who works on Bay st, because she thinks they are  the alpha male, then she will get seduced by those guys all the time and those guys know it.

So onto the questions:

How old are you? 43

What’s your relationship status? Single

How many women do you think you’ve slept with? 20-25 most of them not one night stands… maybe 5 one night stands

Do you have a pick-up technique? What’s your deal?

Well, what I do is read the situation, and be honest. What this means is, if I’m into the girl a lot and i feel a connection I will lay down a path for her to make her move, once that is done then i tell them how i feel about them and just proceed. Again the point, specially now it is not to have a one night stand.

What do you do to “prevent” from falling in love?

If I don’t like the girl, then it won’t happen. But if I like them, then most likely it will happen unless things are complicated, in that case i will just stop. Also try avoiding things like movies, eating out, and sleeping over.

 What’s your opinion on cuddling?

hmm…do it with the one you care about.

How do you seduce women?

They have to want it, then usually by kissing…

What do you wish women knew that they don’t, about men? 

Your idea of alpha males is way off… not every guy is into you, and if you want a relationship, don’t give up the cookie so quick

In this age of political correctness what is one (or two or ten) thing(s) that you find challenging? For example, do you worry about hitting on women might be perceived as sexual harassment? Do you worry about complimenting women in case it gets taken the wrong way?

This (Toronto) is not a city that knows how to interact socially let alone flirt, so yes! Lack of friendliness, self value and self respect are 2 very different things

“Scooters are like fat girls, great fun to ride until your friends find out.” Thoughts?

All subjective…i like curvy and to some guys they would call them fat, and i couldn’t careless, now fat woman in my books, if she wants it, it depends how i read the situation, if i feel they’re looking for a relationship and I don’t want it, then I won’t do it. If they just want to have sex only then it depends how attracted I am. If they are too big for me I won’t do it. If I think they are more than doable then for sure…but can only do it for a for times before the get attached.

Anything else you’d like to share?

I like intense and passionate sex, kinky to a lower level compared to the “kinky” lifestyle type. Because of what I enjoy I cannot have this type of relations without a relationship i do not pursue one night stands

“Younger females are insecure.”

Nickname/ name: Mike

How old are you? 29

What’s your relationship status? Seeing two people

How many women do you think you’ve slept with?

Not sure but more than a 100

Is your aim to sleep with as many women as you can or what are you’re looking for in relationships?

Yea I don’t care to be tied down I’ve got my whole life ahead of me so I’m just sowing my wild oats. The two girls I’m seeing are seeing other people so it’s all good.

What do you do to “prevent” from falling in love?

Can’t do anything to prevent it but it hasn’t happened yet

What’s your opinion on cuddling?

Not a fan but I’ll do it if she’s realy into it

How do you seduce women?

I ask them for their phone number. I ask them out right away if it’s on OKCupid or Craigslist. No point in wasting time.

Do you neg? If yes, why? Does it work for you?

Sure, sometimes. Because it works and it works for me. Younger females are insecure.

What do you wish women knew about men that they don’t necessarily?

That we can see through your game when you say you don’t want a relationship you really do. Also that we will sometimes lie to get in your pants sorry.

In this age of political correctness what is one (or two or ten) thing(s) that you find challenging? For example, do you worry about hitting on women might be perceived as sexual harassment? Do you worry about complimenting women in case it gets taken the wrong way?

I try to be respectful and no one’s ever complained about me

“Scooters are like fat girls, great fun to ride until your friends find out.” Thoughts?

Bahaha

Anything else?

Yes there’s a whole category of females out there called psycho who don’t respect your boundaries especially exes. It’s unbecoming. If I’m not texting you back that doesn’t mean I didn’t get your text, I just don’t care to reply sorry. For the record this is not just females, I haer from female friends guys are like that too.

“I try and look at hooking up etc as a business transaction.”

Nickname/ name: sigs

How old are you? I’m 31

What’s your relationship status? Currently single.

How many women do you think you’ve slept with? 25 give or take the really drunk nights

What do you do to “prevent” from falling in love?

I try and look at hooking up etc as a business transaction. I we both have a service to offer.

What’s your opinion on cuddling?

Honestly even if it is a hook up cuddling is nice. Sex is sex but everyone wants a little intimacy

How do you seduce women?

I’m confident, a little bit of an ass and honest. To the point. No need to waste time.

Do you neg? If yes, why? Does it work for you?

I don’t know what msg is lol

What do you wish women knew that they don’t, about men?

That we really are very simple creatures. Women tend to over think what guys are thinking.

In this age of political correctness what is one (or two or ten) thing(s) that you find challenging? For example, do you worry about hitting on women might be perceived as sexual harassment? Do you worry about complimenting women in case it gets taken the wrong way?

Not at all. A compliment shouldn’t be creepy. If I’m unsure how it will go over I play the shy card.

“Scooters are like fat girls, great fun to ride until your friends find out.” Thoughts?  

 Hey if you’re into larger women more empower to you and them. Not my thing.

“It’s the 30somethings that cause trouble so I stay away because invariably there will be some kind of a relationship talk.”

Nickname/ name: Paul

How old are you? 47

What’s your relationship status? Seeing someone

How many women do you think you’ve slept with? 200+

Is your aim to sleep with as many women as you can or what are you’re looking for in relationships? What’s your deal?

When I was younger that would be something I would have the energy for but nowadays it’s all about finding deeper connections. I have no problem attracting younger women and younger women are pretty open about their sexuality. I find with the younger ones  there’s not a lot of expectation anyway. Not a lot of drama. It’s the 30somethings that cause trouble so I stay away because invariably there will be some kind of a relationship talk. I think it has to do with the biological clock ticking and women in their 30s want more out of relationships than an occasional fuck and dinner. I try not to sleep with 30somethings so that’s my deal.

What do you do to “prevent” from falling in love?

I don’t get attached easily. I was married for 8 years and I discovered I wasn’t very good at being in a relationship so while I have a lot of affection for women I date, I don’t fall for them.

What’s your opinion on cuddling?

Love it with the right person. The worst is when you don’t particularly like the girl and she asks you to stay over. I’ve stayed over far too many times because I didn’t want to seem like a dick.

How do you seduce women?

Eye contact and confidence. I also try to make them laugh. I try to notice some detail about her and then I compliment her on it. When I was younger I would go up to women I found attractive and ask them for their phone numbers just right off of the bat. It never failed.

Do you neg? If yes, why? Does it work for you?

No. Maybe when I was younger but it’s stupid and amateur to rely on that.

What do you wish women knew about men that they don’t necessarily?

That we pretty much want to sleep with all of you regardless of age, size, and relationship status.

In this age of political correctness what is one (or two or ten) thing(s) that you find challenging? For example, do you worry about hitting on women might be perceived as sexual harassment? Do you worry about complimenting women in case it gets taken the wrong way?

I’ve never had that experience where a woman gets offended because I compliment her or complains to my boss. I have a friend who’s a teacher and he tells me it’s a little different where he works and he has to be diligent not to ever send the wrong message or appear like he’s flirting.

“Scooters are like fat girls, great fun to ride until your friends find out.” Thoughts?

I like all kinds of women, small, tall, bigger. wo I have no problem being seen with anyone in public. That saying is vile.

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