“What guy wouldn’t want to sit home on his ass wondering which fuck buddy to invite over tonight?”

What do I do… that’s a good question. I don’t think I do anything all that exceptional. I’m good at finding real adds and answering them in a way that addresses what they’re looking for i guess, rather than just being like “hey baby, lets fuck” and sending a pick of my cock lol. once I actually get a response back from a girl is when things get interesting. I talk to a lot more girls than I meet. and I meet more girls than I actually fuck. In some ways, the failures are probably more interesting.

In my life I’ve been with about 75 girls, the last few years I bag about 12-15 a year on CL, and no pros or sugar babies or anything like that, all girls who are looking to fuck on one level or another. I have 2 right now who just come over every week or so just to have sex with me. We never go out, never do anything else. I bought the one a couple drinks on our first meeting, that’s it. They’ve both been steady for a few months. What guy wouldn’t want to sit home on his ass wondering which fuck buddy to invite over tonight? lol This place (CL) is a gold mine if you know what you’re doing and aren’t an ass, which it seems most of the guys here are. I think, no I know, I’d probably have better luck if all the sketchos didn’t scare half the girls away.

“I was 21 before I even considered having sex.”

Growing up, I wasn’t the most confident person socially, but I was incredibly confident intellectually. This lead me to be an introvert for most of my childhood. Once I got to highschool things changed. I’ve always been comfortable in my own skin, and the older you get that translates into confidence. By the end of high school I was 6’7″ and it seemed like everybody knew me, even though I didn’t work overly hard to cultivate that. I just stuck to being me. I was honest at a level most people aren’t. I was honest with myself. I wound up dating one of the most popular girls at a high school that wasn’t mine, but I didn’t care what that meant. I liked her for her so I approached her in exactly that fashion.
Once I made the sojourn into college and adult life, I lived by that mantra. I stayed honest to myself and by extension everyone else, which means I was 21 before I even considered having sex. When I decided it was time to try, though… I could have easily “picked up” any woman I wanted because there is one thing that women want that they almost never seem to get: honesty. Lying and deceiving require so much more preparation and thought than just being honest. I knew that eventually I’d find someone that wanted to be with me because of who I was… why rush it?
So long story short, that’s how I picked up women. I was honest from day 1…. about everything. I would even make a point of having a conversation once I knew I liked her beyond physical attraction that I wanted to experience her intimately… and either I have good timing or I’m horribly naive about modern women… but I was never turned down and it never felt forced.
Either way, that was my greatest triumph and I learned it well before I even cared about the opposite sex.

“It seems like I’m probably not the target guy you’re looking for, but you’re cute and a writer so why not.”

Nickname/ name: Sam

How old are you? 34

What’s your relationship status? Married

How many women do you think you’ve slept with? 10 (6 from CL)

What do you do to “prevent” from falling in love?

It may seem weird, but I’m already in love with my wife. I don’t really worry about falling in love with someone else. There’s a vast chasm between lust and love. I’ve definitely fallen in lust with some of the women I’ve been with, but never love.

What’s your opinion on cuddling? It’s great. I’m into it.

How do you seduce women?

I listen. I ask them what they think about things. I try to find areas of common interest between us to have a conversation about. In short, I treat them like they’re people and not a public sex-hole that needs to be gamed.

Do you neg? If yes, why? Does it work for you? 

The whole concept is completely ridiculous. Of course I don’t.

What do you wish women knew that they don’t, about men?

I think women know *exactly* what they need to know about men.

In this age of political correctness what is one (or two or ten) thing(s) that you find challenging? For example, do you worry about hitting on women might be perceived as sexual harassment? Do you worry about complimenting women in case it gets taken the wrong way?

I don’t worry about any of these things because I don’t come into a situation with some kind of creepy ulterior motive. I’m decidedly *not* a pick-up artist–which is what these questions seem to have been generated in response to. I use CL because you can find someone who is like-minded about the experience that’s desired. A one-night hook-up? A date and then sex situation? A quick fuck in a public bathroom? It’s all discussed and agreed upon before we meet.

“Scooters are like fat girls, great fun to ride until your friends find out.” Thoughts? Ridiculous. 🙂 Scooters are fun, and any dude who is ashamed of his sex partner because of his friends needs to do some work on his own self esteem.

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