How many women have you slept with?
in my life?
15 I think
And how do you seduce women?
I don’t think I seduce women. I honestly think I’m just myself
Are you single?
and I like giving affection
Yes I’m recently separated from a marriage
So you’re in a dating paradise now? Or is it hell?
well I’ve been “seeing” someone that I really liked but we were both just ending something so it didn’t really work
Why did you want to talk to me about this anyway? (not being confrontational)
I’ve never felt so compliemented for having had no contact with someone
because I’m an academic at heart and understand the intrigue at pursuing an idea
not that I know the idea that you’re pursuign yet
Okay. So tell me what is one (or two or three) things that you wish women knew about men that you think they don’t
- We are more emotional than we are perceived
- We like honesty about sex…that women love sex too3. We like to be taken care of as much as we like taking care of women
Would it make it easier to hook up if both sides were honest right away about what they’re after (#2)
- Sexy lingeerie and bikinis are always sexy
Have you met any women who were only after sex?
Have you slept with anyone just because the opportunity presented itself but you weren’t really that interested in pursuing a relationship?
yes…I think honesty up front is useful but I haven’t met any person, man or woman, who doesn’t get confused about emotions. it’s one thing to say that one is only into sex, but if it’s great sex, and intimate, then emotions come into play. I don’t think it’s possible to really separate the two. But then again, I’ve rarely had sex with someone that I didn’t connect with otherwise
Rarely. So it has happened?
I had an ongoing relationship with a woman just for sex..but we ended up talking about emotions soon enough
You didn’t like that?
Ive had only 1 one night stand
no I liked the emotional talk
I had a one night stand with a different person
the one night stand was just bad sex
she wasn’t able to relax
Okay, so back to the nsa. Did it end because emotions got to be too much?
yeah so the NSA ….that as ongoing…yeah it ended because she assumed because the sex was intimate, that we were an intimate couple
but at the same time she told me she wanted just sexbut she then admitted she had actually wanted a relationship…sorry if that’s confusingI could have described it better
Did you want a relationship with her?
no I didn’t…
I saw that she was not really stable
What do you mean by that?
What about her physical attributes?(Can I be a cunt for the sake of challenging you here?)
she was very judgemental, not warm, and quite inflexible
and her past told me that she wasn’t very affectionate either in terms of her physically appearance, she was sex and beautiful…and she was super smartsexy and she fucked like crazy but in terms of a relatioship…no thanks
What does that mean?”fucked like crazy”?
she loved sex…anytime
loved talking about it, fantasizing, many times per dayand got really into it
Ok. So who ended it?
Because she was unstable.
You didn’t want to “fix” her?
it’s wasn’t a pathology..just her personlality
Despite the fact that she was smart?
yeah she was smart
Smart, hot and likes sex… not good enough (cunt question ☺ )
what does that have to do with it?
not enough for a relationship no
Perhaps I’m projecting. Sorry.
yeah sounds like it…you sound judgmental
I do? I don’t mean to be. Apologies.
This is challenging for me too, for the record.
you’re clearly aware of it since you’re describing them as cunt questions
but you’re prone to offend?
so what, you don’t like men who date?
Or I should say, I’m detached from it
you’re detached from dating?
This isn’t about me
yeah that’s ideal
I haven’t actually “dated” since my marriage ended
I’m detached from my subject. The subject is to have an honest conversation about dating.
I hate the idea
The dating idea?
I don’t want to be dating yeah
I’d rather be in a relationship and monogamous and happy. I was deeply in love with my wife
So is OKCupid working out at all?
I like monogamy because i think there’s something special between two people who share everything and are a team, I only joined OKCupid last week
Don’t you get bored with monogamy?
I never was bored with monogamy while I had it
Have you ever met anyone from OKC?
No I haven’t met anyone yet
Have you heard of negging?And if yes, what do you think of it?
I don’t know what negging is…what is it?
OK..I wouldn’t know how to use this strategy
You’re a nice guy
Yep, I think so anyway